Secret life of a Somali Girls in America

By Raphael Siniora

When I was growing up, sex was a taboo in our household, which is like many Muslim homes regardless of how religious the families are. I remember thinking of sex as a thing for only morally low individuals. As I got older, I learned that sex was good, but only in marriage to a Somali born husband. What were worse than the “morally low” to our 200 scattered Somali families were those, who would entertain with the idea of being with Non-Somalis.

Their demands were accepted by me however there were no Somalis in our 98% pale skinned people of Middle America. We were beyond a minority, more like a dark dot on a white paper. I remember thinking this is ridiculous, how can I find a Somali husband, when I have to travel 20 miles just to see a person of color.

A lot of Somali girls including myself date outside of our community without the knowledge of family or the community. Living such a double life, where you pretend to be something you’re not is in my opinion, extremely and emotional draining.

These young women are breaking cultural boundaries by secretly dating men outside of their religion and culture because the number of Somali people is not enough to look for a partner. Somali parents strictly prefer their children to court and marry a person from their own culture; many of these parents fail to understand that the Somali diaspora in America is a small pool.

“I got tired of looking for the right Somali man to date that’s when I met Michael and I can’t imagine life without him even though only few people know about him” says Anab, a friend of mine

The pressure of looking for Mr. Right in a pool the size of a box has created a platform of living a double life. At home these young women pretend to be what their parents want them to be and in real life they are living the life they want.

In some cases those who meet a decent Somali partner leave there double life behind and go on to being simple housewives and mothers.

“The problem is the only place to meet potential husband is by going to Somali weddings or parties and I hate both so I am out of luck” says Nimco Ahmed

Ahmed is dating an Italian male from Milan. She has no plans of marrying or even introducing him to her parents or family members.

“My guy is very patient because he understands my situation so we complement each other” added Ahmed

If you ever ran into Ahmed on the street, she is dressed in religious clothes, and she looks like the type that never misses a prayer. She is wearing a brought blue scarf with long sleeved shirt and very loose skirt, very typically Islamic attire.

“We have had sex in his place, in his car, and have even gone on vacation together” says Ahmed

The girls explained that, somehow, having forbidden sex makes them feel awful and excited at the same time.

The down fall to living a double life is that a lot of times these girls forget the consequences of sex when they forget to use protection.

Anab, not her real name by the way, stated that she has had over 9 abortions in just her relationship with Michael; a man she loves but will never marry because her family would never accept him.

But there are cases, where young women actually marry their secret lovers, one of them is Anab’s best friend Ifrah; who is married to her once secret white English lover and has son with him. Her mother still wishes that her daughter was married to a Somali, but she accepts her daughter’s husband.

Parents of young Somali women should consider that their actions are forcing their daughters to live emotionally risky lives, which ultimately ends with broken hearts, countless abortions and worst cases, sexually transmitted diseases.

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Why your penis and nipples are darker than the rest of your skin?

By: Raphael Siniora

Revealed... why your penis and nipples are darker than the rest of your skin: Sex hormones cause pigmentation in puberty - but 'darkening can be a sign of diabetes'

• A person's genitals are usually darker than the rest of their body
• Experts reveal the darkening occurs because of hormones in puberty
• Extra testosterone can cause a man's penis and nipples to darken 
• Similarly estrogen can cause a woman's labia and aerola to darken
• But, darkening can also occur because of health problems, doctors warn 

Have you ever wondered why your genitals are darker than the rest of your body?

Regardless of race, a person's penis and nipples, areolas and labia are naturally a shade or two deeper in color than their skin.

And the reason? Darkening occurs during puberty, experts told Daily Mail Online.

As sex hormones surge through the body they stimulate the production of melanin - the amino acid responsible for hair and skin color.

The result is for the skin on a man's penis and nipples and a woman's areolas and labia, to darken.

While the process is a natural one, experts warn, any further darkening in adulthood could be a sign of the chronic illness, diabetes. 

Dr Lindsey Bordone, a dermatologist at Columbia University Medical Center in New York, told Daily Mail Online: ‘Your skin can darken in certain areas when your sugars are very high – and you’re developing diabetes.’  

It's common for men and women to have genitals and nipples that are darker than the rest of their skin, experts reveal. The change in pigmentation largely occur because sex hormones stimulate production of melanin during puberty

In childhood a person generally has lighter pigmentation all over – regardless of race.

For instance, some people are born with blonde hair that later turns brown.

Dr Bordone said: ‘When girls are young, their nipples are light. And as they get older, hormones have an effect and the nipples darken. ‘It’s very similar for boys.’

But, when puberty kicks in, women experience an increase in estrogen, while men experience an influx of testosterone. Those hormones regulate melanocytes – which are skin cells that produce melanin, said Dr Cameron Rokhsar, an associate clinical professor of dermatology at Mt. Sinai Medical Center in New York.

Your skin can darken in certain areas when your sugars are very high – and you’re developing diabetes

Dr Lindsey Bordone, a dermatologist at Columbia University Medical Center

Dr Rokhsar told Daily Mail Online: ‘Hormones regulate the way melanocytes produce their pigment.

‘Those can have an effect on the way the skin in that area pigments, so generally that area is darker.’

Hormones can also affect pigmentation in adulthood, especially in women.

When a woman is pregnant – or goes on birth control pills – she can experience heightened levels of estrogen.

That increase in hormones can cause pigmentation in a woman's face.

Dr Rokhsar added: ‘In pregnancy, women can also develop a dark line on their abdomen.’

Furthermore, external factors – especially friction – can affect pigmentation after puberty.

When the skin experiences friction, it naturally thickens to protect itself, she explained.

Ways To Know When A Woman Is Sexually Attracted To You

Posted by: Raphael Siniora 25 May 2016 in Relationship Tips Leave a comment

Here are a few body language signs to look out for if you want to know how to tell if a woman is sexually attracted to you:

1. She can’t keep her eyes off of you.

If you see that she is making eye contact with you and that eye contact seems to linger a little bit too long, then you can usually take that as being a very good sign that she might feel sexually attracted to you. The more flirtatious that eye contact is, the better.

2. She is trying really hard to get closer to you physically.

The more effort she seems to be putting in trying to get next to you, the more likely it is that she is sexually attracted to you. That’s not always the case, but most of the time it is.

3. She is touching you physically.

If she escalates to the point where she is touching you physically, that is also a pretty good sign that she is sexually attracted to you. Especially when it comes after the flirting has already started and it happens to be an intimate kind of physical touch.

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WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO URINATE AFTER SEX?

By Raphael Siniora

You are likely aware that the anus is pretty darn close to the vagina. This means that fecal bacteria is also nearby, even in the cleanest of women. This situation plus sex can have an unpleasant outcome. “When you have intercourse, that penetration allows some of this bacteria to get closer to the urethra,” says Kim.

Women have short urethras compared to men, so it’s easy for this bacteria (once inside) to make its way to the bladder, where it can multiple, damage tissue, and cause inflammation.

This is a urinary tract infection (UTI), which can be painful and require antibiotics. Peeing right after sex can help prevent the spread of fecal bacteria to the bladder and, there for UTIs. This is also why partners should not switch to vaginal intercourse right after anal.

IF YOU WANT TO ENJOY A LOVELY INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER, ONE THING YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT IS HAVING AN EXCELLENT SEXUAL HEALTH.

Peeing right after the end of the sexual act can bring great benefits for you and your body, and in this way it is helping to fight infections that may endanger your physical well-being.

By having sex, those microbes and bacteria in the genital area and rectum can enter and gather in the urethra, running the danger of infection occur in the bladder. Actually, it has been shown that this is one of the most common reasons for urinary tract infections in women. In order to avoid it, experts stress the importance to urinate right after sex.

According to doctors, female ejaculation does not happen through the urethra so the best way to draw and expel all those substances or particles that are introduced during penetration is through urination. It is recommended not to forget this, once completed intercourse. It is advised not to take your time and to urinate preferably within 45 minutes after penetration.

We additionally insist on the utilization of condoms as more secure and more reliable way to protect against these infections and also of sexually transmitted diseases that can seriously endanger your health and the health of your partner.

When you know about the importance to urinate after sex, you should keep in mind that keeping good personal hygiene just before and after sex is also important to avoid infection in the urinary tract, protect your health and enjoy total comfort of your intimate encounters. Particularly, for women inclined to cystitis, vaginal area ought to be washed with water and a little neutral pH soap at the end.

Women watch more porn after getting married, research finds

By Raphael Siniora

The researchers found the reverse trend in men as they report watching pornography less often after getting married

According to the research, women's use of pornographic material increases after marriage iStock

Women watch more pornography after getting married, while married men watch it less, research has suggested.

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Researchers interviewed a hundred married men and women to establish how behaviour and attitudes towards sexuality change before and after marriage. Of female participants, 9 per cent reported viewing pornography before marriage while 28 per cent said they viewed it after marriage. The reverse trend was noted in married men; with 23 per cent saying they viewed it before marriage while 14 per cent viewed it after marriage.

In a report published by Sexologies Journal, the researchers conclude: “The findings reveal that the consumption of pornography increases after marriages in females and decreases in males with highly significant difference.” 

They suggest: “Higher level of sexual desire has already been correlated with greater pornography use. Men after marriage are more involved in establishing their socioeconomic status in the society. Hence, their priorities may change from sexual fantasies to actual sexual practices with their female partners.”

One other possible interpretation is that marriage was not a deciding factor in itself but a reflector of age. Namely, that women now are more likely to feel less social stigma about viewing pornographic materials than in previous years and therefore the ‘before marriage/ after marriage’ control in the study in fact reflects age in the form of women reflecting on how sexually liberated they feel now compared to previous years. This would suggest that marriage in itself does not change a person’s use of pornography but rather that associated age factors are more influential.

The study also measured married couples’ preference for sexual acts, divided by gender. It found that 13 per cent of men and 12 per cent of women specified penetrative vaginal sex as preferred. 2 per cent of married men specified anal sex, compared to 0.4 per cent of married women and 5.9 per cent of men cited their favourite sexual act as engaging with sexual fantasies, rising to 6.9 per cent of women

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